Why are we unhappy? Why is the other person happy? Does happiness depend on circumstances? If that be a rule, shouldn't everyone with better prospects than me be happier than me?
What makes me unhappy? Bad choices, Poor solution to dilemmas faced in life, wrong values.
Those who are happy have always had the right values? were always good at making choices? Had always had the right solution to their problems?
Didn't the wrong choice make them unhappy? I think, they did make mistakes but chose to forgive themselves and learn from their mistakes. They chose to let it go. They practiced the right thing until they became experts of it. They spent time, solving their problems.
I think happiness is a choice. A choice to be kind to oneself; positive about oneself; listen to oneself; taking care of oneself; loving oneself. This choice contains an inherent responsibility that we need to be kind to others. The logic being, if I am not kind to others, do I deserve kindness? And similarly, if I am kind to the other person, why won't he/she be kind to me? The only thing that could make him otherwise would be something not related to me i.e his personal issues. And in that case, as Gandhiji rightly put it, he needs help or "jaadu ki jhappi".
The world works on the principle that we get what we give. So, to get what you want, you need to give what you want to get. If I hurt you, then won't you hurt me? If I am insincere to you then won't you be insincere to me? In the short run, it might not seem to work but in the long run, it does.
What makes me unhappy? Bad choices, Poor solution to dilemmas faced in life, wrong values.
Those who are happy have always had the right values? were always good at making choices? Had always had the right solution to their problems?
Didn't the wrong choice make them unhappy? I think, they did make mistakes but chose to forgive themselves and learn from their mistakes. They chose to let it go. They practiced the right thing until they became experts of it. They spent time, solving their problems.
I think happiness is a choice. A choice to be kind to oneself; positive about oneself; listen to oneself; taking care of oneself; loving oneself. This choice contains an inherent responsibility that we need to be kind to others. The logic being, if I am not kind to others, do I deserve kindness? And similarly, if I am kind to the other person, why won't he/she be kind to me? The only thing that could make him otherwise would be something not related to me i.e his personal issues. And in that case, as Gandhiji rightly put it, he needs help or "jaadu ki jhappi".
The world works on the principle that we get what we give. So, to get what you want, you need to give what you want to get. If I hurt you, then won't you hurt me? If I am insincere to you then won't you be insincere to me? In the short run, it might not seem to work but in the long run, it does.
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